Dear Cheryl: My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. Before that I was living with a man, but I ended that relationship because I was no longer in love with him. The man I'm currently dating is somewhat in the same situation, but he's still living with his so-called roommate. He talks about our future and tells me we're going to be together, but I don't see him moving out. Do you think that I should let him go and get on with my life? — Two's Company, Three's a Crowd

Dear TCTAC: Yes I do. If he were serious, he would have ended his relationship. Say goodbye, and tell him to call you if and when he moves out. And if and when he does, check up on his living arrangements just to be sure.

Dear Cheryl: My boyfriend, Charlie, is 6 feet 7 inches; I'm 5 feet 4 inches. He weighs 240 pounds; I weigh less than 120. He's very critical of women who have bellies, and he points out whenever my weight creeps up to around 125, which it sometimes does in the winter. As for his weight, he admits that he should "maybe lose 5 pounds."

Now, Charlie is a smart man, and a good one, yet he apparently does not see his disgusting spare tire. He needs to lose 20 pounds just to barely get down to a healthy body mass index.

I told him his weight is not only a turnoff but that it's physically unwieldy for me to be intimate with him. That got his attention, and he's trying to get back in shape. I'm going to stay on him, in a loving way.

But it's still a mystery to me how men who are overweight feel free to be critical of women who are also overweight. — Crushed by Love

Dear Crushed: I, too, have often pondered this very point. I've also wondered how men who are pushing 40 or 50 years old (or 60 or 70) could call a young woman — sometimes younger than their daughter — "long in the tooth."

I've even gone so far as to point out to men the hypocrisy of mentioning a woman's blubber butt when theirs is like a ton of lard. And the hypocrisy of commenting on a woman's advanced age when they probably helped Noah load the arc. Their answer is always along the lines of "What's one thing got to do with the other?"

I simply consider these things imponderables. They're like the notion of hot dogs coming 10 to a package, while hot dog buns come eight to a package.

Dear Cheryl: I'm 19, and my fiance is 38. How should we tell our families that we're getting married? — Child Bride

Dear Child Bride: Not in person. If you're in the same room when you tell them, there may be blood.

First of all, at 19, you're way too young to even think about getting married. The Rules According to Lavin clearly state that no woman is allowed to marry before she has finished her education, started a career, paid her own bills, established a retirement account and lived on her own — and is a happy, well-adjusted, self-sufficient person. You don't qualify. And I don't think much of your finance, either. What kind of a man wants to marry a child?

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