We recently heard from "Looking for a Great Second Act," a widower who wasn't having any luck finding another wife. He thought him having had a terrific first marriage would make women see him as promising husband potential. But it wasn't working out that way.

JENNA: I am a widow. My husband died eight years ago. I've been dating on and off for six of those years, and I still cannot find a decent, honest man to spend time with on a permanent basis.

I'm not looking for marriage — just a companion. But men in my age bracket (50s) aren't interested in a monogamous relationship. They want to play the field and bed as many as they can before they die. It's very disheartening to be a decent, loving human who's unable to find someone like-minded and wants to share some of his time with me, for whatever time is left on this Earth for us.

I try to stay optimistic and keep plugging along. There is someone out there for Mr. Second Act, and for me, too, I hope.

JULIE: I was a widow at 49 after a wonderful 25-year marriage. It's now 13 years later. I met my new love five years ago. It's truly possible to love two men in one lifetime if they're the right ones. It's a different kind of love but so special. I dated some divorcees and widowers, and nothing clicked till I met this special, kind and caring divorced man.

I feel like the luckiest lady in the world. We're getting married soon, and we plan to enjoy the rest of our lives with love, honesty and trust. So, please tell "Looking for a Great Second Act" that it is possible. Our first dance at our wedding will be "The Second Time Around."

Readers: A concerned friend recently wrote in to say he was afraid that his nudist buddy was going to get in trouble for letting it all hang out, even in his own home. He was worried that even though his buddy had posted a note next to his doorbell warning visitors that whoever answered the door might be nude, he could still be arrested for public nudity.

OFFICER FRANK: As long as this guy isn't outside, on the public way in a state of undress, he's not breaking the law — at least not here in Illinois!

We recently heard from two women who had "bonus babies" late in life. Both said it got them out of their rut. Readers have written in on this topic.

ANGELA: I completely disagree with having a "bonus baby" to liven up a dull relationship. I'm dating a 25-year-old man who was 21, living at home and attending college when his mother and stepfather of three months announced their new addition. He was told the baby needed his room, so he had to move out. And the money needed for him to finish college was now needed for the new baby. His siblings, ages 17 and 13, were drafted as unwilling babysitters.

The baby came along with alienation, jealousy and more drama than anyone had expected or wanted. Please encourage your readers to contemplate what impact a new addition will have on their present children. Sometimes strengthening present bonds is more satisfying than creating new ones.

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