You know I love happy endings, and today I'm happy to share two with you.

When Rich wrote in five years ago, he said he and his wife used to have sex once a month, but after 25 years of marriage it had dwindled to once every six months.

"I became severely depressed due to our sex life and stress and pressure from my job. After a great deal of thought, I told my wife that I wanted a platonic relationship. This was not a power play. I really wanted to get on with the nonsexual part of my life.

"I envisioned a number of responses, relief being the primary one, but I never expected her reaction. She told me she would divorce me if we went platonic. Our sex life immediately went from once every six months to once a week, and it has remained that way since."

Rich wrote back to say, "My wife and I (with help from my little blue friend) have continued to enjoy sex about once a week despite the fact that she is past menopause.

"I'm now a firm believer in ultimatums — after all other approaches have failed. But before you make an ultimatum, think long and hard about the possible consequences and be prepared to follow through.

"You recently wrote about May who complained that she does all the work around the house. May should make a list of what she does and negotiate with her husband so he can take some chores over. If he won't, she should hand him the list after underlining the chores she'll no longer do. From then on, he will either do those chores or they won't be done.

"At the same time, she should tell him that she's interested in renewing an enthusiastic sex life. When a couple agrees to an exclusive relationship, they're each responsible for more than just being monogamous. They're also responsible for doing their best to satisfy each other's sexual needs. Denying sex is as serious a violation of the marital bond as extramarital sex."

"Too Good?" wrote in several years ago to say she was "a nice girl — loyal, faithful and understanding" who never nagged her husband, cooked, cleaned, worked full-time, took care of the baby and "rarely said no to sex, and even then I was often game." And she was beautiful.

"I was completely stunned when I learned that my husband had an affair and wanted a divorce. He said it was because I don't do enough and I'm "lousy in bed." I know he has some serious issues, but I want to learn from my mistakes and move on. Help me! What on Earth did I do wrong?"

I told her the only thing she did wrong was marry the wrong man. "And then you actually listened to his guilt-deflecting, self-serving lies about how you made him have an affair. What a weak, pathetic, insecure turd!"

She later wrote to say that after parting with her husband she had sex with another man. "He informed me that I was far from lousy in bed. I now know my ex has issues I cannot possibly address, let alone fix. Why are there so many women like me, so desperate to please that we allow this abuse to continue far too long?"

Did your tale have a happy ending?

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