The thing about one-night stands is that the next morning the guy is supposed to be able to say, "That was great! I'll call you some time.'' And then disappear into the ether. And that's the way it works out most of the time. Unless, of course, the woman gets pregnant ...

JASON: I'm the father of a child born after a one-night stand, according to the mother. I'm currently awaiting DNA results. I'm the first to say it's my fault as much as hers. But since she has two kids from two different fathers, you'd think she would be smart enough to use birth control.

Here's the way I see it. 99.9 percent of women who get pregnant after a one-night stand are just looking for that check in the mail.

I make an average income. My support payments are going to keep me permanently strapped. In addition to support, I would have to carry health insurance for the baby. How am I supposed to enjoy my time with the baby if I'm broke all the time?

LOGAN: I had a one-night stand and the woman got pregnant. I had very little money at the time. The mother and I lived 1000 miles apart. If I would have gotten involved in this child's life, I would have been constantly broke and all of my vacations would have been in cheap motels waiting for the few hours a day when I could see my child, if the mother let me.

To me, adoption was the best way to give the child a better home than I could provide. But the mother wanted to keep the baby. We haven't spoken since and she never pursued me for support.

I'm probably considered a dog by my child, now a 35-year-old woman. But I'll bet her mother never told her about her older brother or sister which she had given up for adoption. And that father was around when she gave up the baby. She'd been engaged to him. She gave him no choice in her decision.

So, she gave up one child and is considered a great person for allowing her baby to have a better chance in life. But I'm a dog for giving up my child.

I miss my daughter. In my way, I love her. But I gave her up and I've never tried to interfere in her life. I made my decision and I'm living with it. I doubt it would ever happen, but if she ever came looking for me, I would welcome her and hope we could somehow connect.

I'm sure most women reading this think I'm a dog, but I only did what so many of them do. I sacrificed and gave up my child. Why is it only women are given that right?

LACEY: There's a simple solution for men who don't want to pay child support — don't father children. If you are practicing safe sex, you should be reasonably safe. But to be really sure, get snipped, and practice safe sex anyway. Men who confuse their virility with their fertility deserve what they get — kids they didn't plan for. Man up or shut up.

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