DR. WALLACE: I'm 17 and very much in love with my guy who is 19. My parents really liked him, and they thought he was the perfect guy for me. He attended most of our family get-togethers and my dad sometimes called him "Son," as in son-in-law.

About three months ago, my guy and I got into a deep conversation about how much we loved each other. We decided we loved each other more than any other people on earth, and that's a lot of love! We agreed that having a baby conceived in the passion of this love would be the ultimate love expression to each other. We were waiting for the right moment to have this child.

My boyfriend wrote me a note last week and said that the time had come for us to have our love child. Well, my grandmother found the note on the floor by my bedroom. She told my parents and they went berserk!

To make this terribly emotional, long story short, I am now not allowed to see my guy — ever again — and I'm grounded for three months. If I am caught even contacting him, my parents have promised to send me to live with my sister in San Francisco.

I need some serious advice. I love my guy and he loves me, and that's the way that it is. As soon as I graduate from high school we are going to get married. — Nameless, Fresno, Calif.

NAMELESS: Your plan to have a baby as the "ultimate" love expression was unwise and displayed extreme immaturity on the part of both you and your boyfriend. Being an unwed mother would present you and your guy with a multitude of serious problems. Forget about being a mother until you are married, and have the maturity to fulfill this highly important role effectively.

In the meantime, your love will have to wait. You have no other choice than to obey your parents. San Francisco is a wonderful city, but I'm sure that you prefer Fresno.

YOU AND YOUR DATE ARE BOTH TO BLAME

DR. WALLACE: I am 17 and so is the girl I've been dating for over a year. Her parents know me and are usually nice to me. She has a midnight curfew for weekend dates. Last Saturday we went to a small party. It was a great party — no booze or drugs, just good food and good conversation. We both lost track of time. When we got to her house, her parents were waiting for her. Her father told me that, as a punishment for bringing her home late, I couldn't see her for a month. He said that I was 100 percent to blame because I had the car and he trusted me to bring his daughter home on time.

I care for this girl a lot, but she was as much to blame as I was. I guess I'm upset because he is placing all the blame on my shoulders. How do you see it? - Nameless, DeKalb, Ill.

NAMELESS: If she had told you that it was time to leave the party to meet her curfew and you had ignored her, then you would have been totally responsible, but the blame for being late belongs to both of you.

Her dad is off the mark to dish the blame off on you alone. However, the punishment he meted out affects both of you equally, so, in effect, the two of you are sharing the blame equally.

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