DR. WALLACE: A simple yes or no is all I need. I respect your advice, so please give my question some serious thought.

My fiance is 22, and he is a wonderful guy. He is brilliant academically and graduated from Princeton with honors. He comes from a well-to-do family and is now working on an advanced degree in mathematics at Yale. He wants to earn his Ph.D. and teach at the college level.

I'm 20 and in my third year at the University of Massachusetts and plan to be an elementary school teacher. My fiance plans for us to get married soon after I earn my bachelor's degree in June 2016.

All of my friends and family consider him to be everything a girl could want, and they all tell me that I'm a lucky lady to have him for my fiance. I'll admit that he really is near perfect, but I don't love him. I'm hoping that I will learn to eventually love him and become the loving wife that he expects me to be and that we will live happily ever after.

My question for you is: Do you think I should marry my fiance even if I still don't love him when it's time for the wedding, hoping that love will come after the ceremony? — Nameless, Springfield, Mass.

NAMELESS: NO! Marrying someone you don't love is a sure road to an unhappy and disastrous marriage! Rarely does a mate find love after the ceremony. It is imperative that a couple share never-ending love before they say, "I do."

NEVER RIDE WITH A DRIVER WHO HAS BEEN DRINKING

DR. WALLACE: One of my close friends was invited by a guy to go to a party. She decided that he had too much to drink, and she refused to let him drive her home. She called her parents and they picked her up. However, instead of praising her for making the correct decision, her parents were angry because they had to get out of bed and pick her up. When I heard this, it really made me angry. My friend did the right thing, and her parents should have been glad that she arrived home safely from this date.

I wonder how they might feel if they were put in my shoes. My brother was never involved with alcohol. He was active in our church and was a great guy and a wonderful brother. Just over a year ago, he was in the same situation, but instead of calling home for a ride, he got in the car with his friend who had been drinking. Shortly afterward, and only about a mile from home, he was killed in a car accident.

I only wish he had called me. I would have picked him up no matter what time it was! I have to deal with my brother's death every day and will for the rest of my life. — Heartbroken, Battle Creek, Mich.

HEARTBROKEN: Please accept my deep condolences. I understand how painful it was for you to hear about parents who grumbled about the "inconvenience" of what turned out to be saving their daughter's life. Not all adults who have children turn out to be wise parents.

Let me repeat the rule that should be engrained in the mind of each and every teen: Never ride with a driver who has been drinking!

Mom and Dad, do your children know this rule? Do they understand that you will rescue them from any situation in which the only other choice is riding with a drunk driver? I hope with all my heart that they do.

Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. Email him at rwallace@galesburg.net. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.