Coby and Susan dated all through high school. Everyone assumed they'd get married, including them. But Coby was seeing other girls on the side, and one of them got pregnant.

He says, "I'd been raised to do 'the right thing' and marry her. It was just weeks after the wedding that I realized how a big a mistake I'd made."

That was the end of Coby and Susan, although he continued to think about her and kick himself from losing her. He eventually divorced his first wife and thought about looking for her, but he assumed she was married.

"I didn't want to disrupt her life," he says.

Years went by. Coby dated several women, but none of them ever measured up to Susan. He decided to look her up. He found one of her relatives, but when he called, he got a cold shoulder and no information.

He says: "I decided to leave it alone. I should have tried harder. I later learned Susan was still single."

A few years later, Coby married. It was a happy marriage at first. But after 11 years, it fell apart. That's when Susan suddenly showed up.

He says: "She sent me a simple email, something like, 'We haven't talked in a long time. How are you?' I remember my exact response: 'Why you? Why now?'

"Over the past 30 years, my love had never died nor the hope that I'd see her again and apologize. I was sure she hated me, but I still wanted to say I was sorry."

When she emailed Coby, Susan was married. They exchanged several emails, first to catch up and then to talk about what had happened between them.

He says: "It turned out she had remained in love with me all these years as well. We decided to meet for lunch, with the knowledge of our spouses. At that lunch, 30 years melted away. Daily emails and phone calls followed. I was on the brink of ending my marriage, she was having issues with hers."

As of now, Coby and his wife are getting divorced, although it will take some time. Susan isn't able to leave her husband anytime soon. So they get together as often as they can, which isn't that often.

He says: "We've become physically involved over the past few months, although we haven't 'gone all the way.' It's as though we fool ourselves into believing we're not having an affair if we manage to avoid 'that.'

"What we want is the freedom to spend time together and get to know each other again, but it's not going to happen. Maybe we'll eventually get married, maybe we'll decide it wouldn't work. Our time together is pure bliss, but we know we're not dealing with any of the harsh realities of life.

"So we just take each day as it comes. We lost each other once. We don't' want to lose each other again. We know we need to make changes, but they're difficult, they take time and they mean people will get hurt. I don't see this ending well.

"Still, I have no regrets. As screwed up as everything is, I love having her in my life, even like this."

Have you looked up an old love? Send your tale, along with your questions and problems to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. And check out my e-books, "Dear Cheryl: Advice from Tales from the Front" and "I'll Call You. Not."