Today, readers share their thoughts on regrets, marriage and commitment.

LOVEY: I had to stop and ponder Jill's conundrum. (Jill is the woman who is still pining for the man she met in 1974.) It made me think about the impulsive decisions I've made in the past.

Until I met my husband, I had been in relationships where I felt I would never be able to breathe again if he (any one of my exes) was not in my life. Guess what? Once I met my true love, I never gave a second thought to all the guys who got away, the ones who I had spent so much time wondering about.

Then, the right one was there in front of me, and both of us knew it. Once Jill finds the right guy for her, she'll never look back! I know I haven't. I wish everyone could have the kind of love I have.

Judy is the woman married to Al. Al cheated on her years ago. He eventually had a stroke, and Judy has since been his sole caretaker. She's been carrying on a chaste, long-distance relationship with Jack, an old friend, for two years. They've never gotten together in person. Jack is unhappily married to his sick wife.

Judy says: "Jack says as soon as I'm free from Al, he'll walk away from his miserable life and be with me. But he says I have to stay with Al because I'm all he has. I know the day is coming when I just can't do it anymore."

DAVID: I am a man, but I see no reason for Judy to take care of the two-bit rat she married. I think Judy should call Jack's bluff. It's just a guess, but I bet his situation is not exactly as he claims.

DANIEL: Your column about the cost of weddings made me want to share our experience. My wife and I were both married previously. My first wedding cost around $15,000 back in 1982. It seemed like a fortune at the time. And for what? Two years later she was gone (to my very good fortune!)

I don't know what my wife's first wedding cost, but it wasn't cheap. We met a year after she divorced. A couple of years later we decided to marry. Neither one of us wanted a big ceremony. We figured the money would be better spent on a down payment for a house.

We got married after a Sunday church service. The only attendants were her five-year-old son, my best man, her maid of honor and her husband, who was our photographer. After the ceremony we went to brunch and then back to my apartment for cocktails. I think the whole thing cost $150.

Twenty-four years later, we are still together and living in the house we bought right after we wed. Last year our son and his fiancee decided to get married, and they took a page from our book — they had an intimate affair with 20 people. Why spend all that money for a one-day splash? Put it toward your future. It sure worked for us.

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