Dear Cheryl: I was in the checkout line at our neighborhood supermarket the other day when I caught a glimpse of the latest issue of Cosmo. One headline promised women "mind blowing orgasms."

I thought to myself: Should men be buying Cosmo? Can we make our women happier by reading this rag? Can I learn something here? And, if so, why isn't this information in the magazines I read, like GQ? Are men's magazines shortchanging men, or is it all bull crap?

What do you think about this?

By the way, I don't think I'm doing a bad job between the sheets. I'm in pretty good shape for a guy turning 51 tomorrow. I work out regularly, and everything works without any little blue pills. I haven't received any complaints, but I can't help but wonder whether guys (especially us middle-aged guys) should start subscribing to these magazines. Or will bringing change to the sheets cause more problems than it would resolve? — There's Always Room for Improvement

Dear TARFI: Hmmmm.

Well, what have you got to lose? Pick up a magazine and see whether you pick up some useful tips. Your partner's curiosity may take second place to her gratitude.

Dear Cheryl: I'm 19 years old, and I have a lot of things going for me. I work and I go to school and I have a boyfriend who I've been with for four years. But my problem is with my best friend, who's a male. We've known each other for five years, and we're attracted to each other. He has a girlfriend, and when he talks about her, I get very upset.

For a while we were friends with benefits. Then he said we could still be friends but without the benefits, which was fine with me. But, the other day, when I invited him to shoot pool or go bowling, he told me he couldn't because of his girlfriend.

I feel that my love for him is more than a friendship love. But I also feel he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. I'm very heartbroken. What do I do? Between Two People

Dear BTP: The first thing you do is break up with your boyfriend. Your feelings aren't strong enough to be in a relationship. It isn't fair to him or you.

The second thing you do is accept that your friendship with your best friend is over, at least for now. You destroyed it when you fooled around with him while you had a boyfriend and he had a girlfriend. No friendship can survive that much cheating.

The third thing you do is realize that you're very young and you have a lot of living and growing up to do. Promise yourself that you will live the biggest, fullest life possible. Have adventures! Vow that when you're ready to settle down, you won't have any regrets about things you wish you would have done. Don't involve yourself with someone just to have a boyfriend.

Walk the tight rope without a net. You won't regret it.

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