Today we have some very different takes on everyone's favorite subject.
NORA: My husband and I had sex on our first date. We were so hot for each other that anything else was not an option. I didn't try to act coy and pretend I didn't want it. I did, and I let him know, and that was that.
Well, that was 33 years and two children ago. I'm always amused when couples talk about waiting. I just think about how much fun they're missing. And by the way, we're still (almost) as hot for each other as we were then.
Truth be told, there are a lot of couples who had one-night stands and are now celebrating their 33rd wedding anniversary.
RILEY: I once read that Andy Warhol said sex is "a big nothing." I have to say, I agree. I look at my male friends, and it seems like they put so much energy into finding a woman to have sex with that could be so much better spent furthering their careers, working out or even fixing their cars.
Don't get me wrong; I'm not a virgin, and I'm not a prude, and I enjoy sex. But I also enjoy hamburgers, and I don't make hunting my next one the focus of my days.
Here's a serious question: Am I missing something? Or are my friends?
KEITH: The fact is people engage in extramarital sexual relationships all the time — lots of people. And a lot of those people are your friends and family members. You just don't know about it. And why should you? It's none of your business unless they're sleeping with your spouse.
People who have affairs are not a special horrible breed. They're just ordinary people — like you and me and most of our presidents. It's practically a requisite for running for office.
Before you condemn someone for cheating, realize that someone may be condemning you one day for the same thing.
NANCY: As a woman who grew up in the days when nice girls didn't kiss on a first date, I find the concept of "hooking up" — which I believe means sleeping with someone you've just met without any expectations of even seeing him again (let alone having him actually buy you a meal) — appalling.
What are girls and women thinking? I know times have changed, and I certainly don't believe that women need to wait for marriage to have sex — especially since so many of them are postponing marriage to finish their schooling and establish their careers — but come on!
There's a world of a difference between having sex with a man you're in a committed relationship with and jumping into the sack with someone you've picked up in a bar. At least that's how this old broad sees it!
How do you feel about one-night stands? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. And check out my e-books, "Dear Cheryl: Advice from Tales from the Front" and "I'll Call You. Not."
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