Tiffany was one of the many women who wrote in to say that marriage made them invisible. They were so busy being who their husbands wanted them to be that they lost themselves. A drastic weight loss gave Tiffany the confidence to accept that her marriage was stifling, and she divorced.

Said Tiffany: "I can say with certainty that at 37 I'm completely comfortable with myself. I will not make myself less to get a man. I lost myself for too many years to take a step back like that.

"I tell any young woman I come in contact with that she shouldn't even think about marriage until she's at least 28 years old. She needs to give herself a chance to find out who she is and become comfortable in her own skin."

Is 28 the magic age for marriage? Here's what you had to say:

MELISSA: Telling women to wait until they are 28 is basically ensuring they'll be the "Sex and the City" girls minus the glamor. They'll soon be in their late 30s, and the only men around will be married men looking for a fling, commitment-phobes, drug addicts, men with mental or physical problems, or divorced guys with kids. (You will never come first with a man in that situation.)

When a person marries young, she has a chance to grow with her spouse, and (if you will pardon the crass expression) she has the pick of the litter. By 28, the men who are serious and want to get married are married. And, trust me: Unlike on "Sex and the City," it won't be easy for her to find close female friends. Many will have disappeared due to marriage, and the single ones will likely be lost in their own struggles with singlehood and working life.

A woman should have a career goal firmly in mind — other than being a Mrs. — but once she figures that out, she should concentrate on the qualities she wants in a mate and then try to find the person she wants to marry.

Our problem is that this is not discussed in high school or college, and people have no idea what they want, or even how to find a quality person. Waiting till 28 doesn't give you a clearer idea. You can be just as confused and then have to struggle with a much smaller dating pool, fewer dating opportunities and a ticking biological clock. The infertility specialists have enough business already.

Telling a woman to wait till 28 to marry means she'll probably marry the first guy who asks her when she reaches that age.

ELLIE: I'm 35 and single. In my 20s, my friends and I were desperate to get married. Men ran away from us at the mention of a commitment. In my 30s, I came into my own. I'm confident and smart enough not to rush into a relationship or marriage.

Meanwhile, men my age and older are now desperate to get married. The dating scene is completely reversed. I'm now the man who's running away, and they're the scared women. I've never met a man over 30 who wasn't desperate to find a woman to take care of him and make his life better.

Readers, do you agree with Tiffany, Melissa or Ellie? Send your tale, along with your questions and problems to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. And check out my e-books, "Dear Cheryl: Advice from Tales from the Front" and "I'll Call You. Not.