Do cheaters ever get away with it? What with history tabs on computers, voicemail, chatty friends and true confessions?

CHELSEA: One day, early in our marriage, Chris told me that if he ever decided to cheat, I would never know.

As the years went by, there were several times when I thought he was seeing other women, but I could never prove it. And boy, did I want to! I felt that was the only way out of my marriage. I couldn't bring myself to end it for the sake of my own happiness because I couldn't stand to be the bad guy. There was one woman in particular, a receptionist at his workplace.

Finally, I asked Chris' best friend's girlfriend, Jackie, if Chris was seeing someone. She said no. A few years later I left Chris. I've been extremely happy ever since.

Last spring, twelve years after I asked Jackie about Chris, I saw her. We talked about old times, and she said her ex, Chris' friend, had cheated and his friends fooled around on their wives.

I said that I'd always been suspicious of Chris and a certain receptionist. Jackie said she'd actually caught them in the act at work! She said she'd felt guilty for not telling me, but she felt it would jeopardize her relationship with her boyfriend. All I could do was laugh and thank her profusely for finally telling me. Suddenly, all those suspicious events over the years made sense and I had confirmation that I made the right decision by dumping the jerk.

JASMINE: When I hit the history tab on the computer, I discovered that my husband of seven years was involved with an online swingers' club.

I went into complete panic mode — my heart started beating rapidly, my hands started trembling, my stomach dropped. I clicked on the link and saw that he'd sent an email to a couple describing in graphic detail what he would do to the man when they met. He also attached a photo of himself, from our family vacation mind you!

He claims nothing happened besides these emails and one face-to-face encounter a year and a half ago, but I'm absolutely distraught by this shocking discovery. I had to get tested for HIV. That is something I never thought I'd have to do. I've also gotten a referral for a divorce attorney.

LISBETH: I caught my husband cheating thanks to voicemail. There'd been mysterious charges on the credit card, but he always had a believable excuse. There were odd phone numbers on his cell phone bill, but after I brought them to his attention they disappeared. Fortunately for him, he had a work cell phone he could use. Unfortunately for him, I knew how to access it.

After all the little clues were screaming at me, I called his work phone and listened to the voicemail. Sure enough, there was a message from his girlfriend professing her love. I confronted him and told him he could have her. I deserved better. Long story short, I've been happily divorced for five years now.

CASSIE: One night, after we had just been intimate, I was about to tell my husband I was pregnant. That's when he blurted out that he was in love with someone else and wanted a divorce. We had been married five years.

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