I searched two data banks and I couldn't find a single support group for beautiful people. There's Mensa for the super smart. There are clubs where the tall or the short can commiserate. But if you're beautiful, you just have to suffer alone. Who said life was fair?

SYLVIE: My sister was the total package: beauty, brains, sense of humor, and a myriad of other positive qualities. When she turned 14, the boys started calling. At that point, she decided to focus exclusively on her appearance. She stopped developing any of her other qualities. Why should she work at anything when everything was going to be given to her? She never even cracked another joke.

Where is she today? She's nearly 50, has never had a lasting relationship, and has never gotten the degree she needs just to keep the job she has. She complains about her "bad luck" in attracting all the wrong men. The truth is that she attracted all kinds of men, but she never developed the discernment to separate the keepers from the losers.

I recently tried to talk to her about finishing her degree and saving for retirement. She brushed me off with, "I plan to marry a sexy, handsome man and let him do all the worrying about retirement for me!" She said it like she was kidding, but I knew she meant it.

This past fall, instead of signing up for coursework, she got a face-lift. Her looks earned her the princess treatment, but she's still waiting around for Prince Charming who never shows up. She wouldn't recognize him if he did.

JACEE: Being beautiful has many disadvantages. Some men treat you badly because you remind them of the girls they could never date. Some men disrespect the man you're with by flirting with you in front of your boyfriend. Lots of women try to compete with you for your boyfriend. Some of them assume you're after their boyfriend. Friendships are hard to come by because nobody wants to be around someone who gets more attention.

I used to dress down to make other people accept me. Then one day I decided I would be much happier if I spent my time making myself feel pretty instead of worrying about what other people thought. Dressing down didn't make anybody like me more. I still don't have any friends, but I feel a lot better about myself. Fashion and beauty are a part of being a woman. Why shouldn't I wear high heels even if I'm 5'9?

I just wish there were more articles written about the downside of beauty. People don't understand. They just think you're full of yourself. I really wish that I was wrong about this and that it was just my imagination. But the truth is, some people just automatically hate you on sight.

They think you get better treatment than they do. They assume you have an attitude. They're jealous, so they try to make you look bad. They assume you couldn't be smart or talented because you're so pretty. I've always relied on my intelligence and creative talents to be successful. I think this makes some people even more enraged because it defies their stereotype of beautiful women.

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