There are some unpleasant life experiences that we all have to go through. Teething comes to mind. Falling and getting up is another. Having someone you care about break up with you is another. It happens to the best of us. Just ask Jennifer Aniston.

LAINIE: Twice I've gone full steam ahead into a relationship only to have the guy get cold feet and bail. The first time I was in high school, so I can clearly see why. But the other time I was in my early 20s and he was mid-20s. He was established and had an apartment that he shared with his sister. They were quite chummy.

We lasted about three months. Then he just stopped calling, conveniently on a weekend when my home phone wasn't working. This was before cell phones, though I did call him from a pay phone to tell him about my phone. Since he didn't pick up, I left him a message.

Did he get cold feet? We only saw each other maybe one day during the week and one day on the weekends.

I wonder if his sister worked on him. She was a widow — her husband had been a racecar driver and died in a crash — and she wasn't happy with him dating. I think she was afraid of him progressing with me and having her life change.

It was upsetting to be dumped, of course. It's never pleasant. I did confront him, but he was just a baby about it and I saw him for the idiot he really was in the end. I moved on with my life. I don't have time to deal with jerks. While I've been heartbroken, I've never fallen apart.

I can relate to being able to handle a breakup in a practical manner and just turn off the emotions. I think most women have a cold bloodedness to them that can come in handy when needed. It's part of our survival instinct, I think.

I've ended a few relationships just because. One day I cared, the next I didn't, though usually it was because of some incident that made me lose respect for the guy. Unfortunately for them, they didn't know what they had done, as I did not enlighten them. I just went on my merry way without fretting about it.

It is truly best to just move on, learn something hopefully from the experience, and not be afraid to keep looking. It took me a while, but I found my guy. After 15 years of dating frogs, I found him in the end.

CHANNING: How a person heals from the end of a relationship depends on who is responsible for the breakup as well as the personality types involved.

JESSE: Usually when someone breaks up, they have someone else to go to before leaving. A monkey does not let go of one branch until they have hold of another.

People who don't have any emotional trauma over a breakup don't have it because they never got emotionally involved in the first place.

How do you deal with break-ups? Send your tale, along with your questions, problems and rants to cheryllavinrapp@gmail.com. And check out my new website askcheryl.net.