Q. I am in my 60s, and as a widow, I feel I am slowing down and losing my energy. I have always been energetic, I have always had a positive outlook, and my doctor assures me that I am in reasonably good health. My husband and I were budget-conscious, so my finances are more than adequate for my needs.

I am finding, though, that I don't feel like my old self. I feel confused and need advice. Can you help?

A: People of every age have occasional days when things just don't go right. The key is to remind yourself to do the right thing, count your blessings and look for ways to improve your disposition.

I'll take a shot at guessing why you're feeling down. Could it be that you have lost several close friends and have been unable to replace them? Did a family situation occur that you did not anticipate? If so, are you are in denial about it? Loneliness can be paralyzing.

Sometimes — particularly during the tough times — we make quick decisions in haste without consulting our family and friends. As a matter of fact, I recently made a hasty financial decision. Afterward, I learned from my accountant how my decision changed how much I would owe in taxes. I have not disclosed my foolishness to my family because they will think I am losing my marbles! Learn from my mistake.

One solution that could help you is to rethink how you spend your time. Volunteer at a nonprofit for a few hours a month. Choose one that you believe is truly making a difference. Research shows there are major benefits of volunteering. Those you volunteer become happier because they are distracted from their own worries and concerns, they make friends with people who share a common goal, they partake in something that's meaningful to them, and they may be able to use their skills and expertise. Plus, volunteers can be encouraging to others. You will no doubt contribute to the greater good of your community by volunteering. — Doug

FOCUS ON HAPPINESS

Q. Everyone seeks ways to make themselves happier. I try to stay focused and maintain a positive attitude in everyday life. But sometimes I get angry and discouraged, and am unable to do so. How do others stay focused and maintain a happy outlook?

A: Search for and maintain relationships with individuals who appear to be happy. Avoid complainers. Make a daily to-do list, and rank the items in terms of how happy or joyful they make you feel, from the ones you least prefer to do, all the way to the ones you will enjoy.

Also, plan to do at least two good deeds every month. Being helpful to others can become infectious! It will change your outlook and your partner's. Also, smile frequently every day, and others will want to get to know you and share in your happiness.

Your self-discovery will help reinforce a positive attitude and improve your happiness. Stay positive, and give these things a try! — Emma, Doug's granddaughter

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at deardoug@msn.com. Emma, Doug's granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.