Dear Annie: This is addressed to the many people who have written to you on the subject of being bullied.

Have you noticed that most, if not all, bullies ply their trade to impress their peers? Bullies bully to gain the attention and approval of someone or some group. They usually pick on someone they think won't fight back — someone they consider weak.

Witnesses usually look the other way. The only way to stop bullies is for witnesses (in most cases, their own peers) to show disapproval in no uncertain terms. Don't encourage bullies! When you witness bullying, speak up. If someone else speaks up, support them. Unfortunately, the only way to stop a bully is to, for the moment at least, be a bigger bully. — Great Grandpa Bill

Dear Great Grandpa Bill: I love your analysis of bullying. Conventional wisdom is that the best way to stop a bully is for children who are being bullied to stick up for themselves. But that is often too difficult for them, which is why your analysis is so perceptive — to encourage others to stick up to the bully on behalf of the child being bullied. My guess is that if the victim of the bully were to see his or her peers showing disapproval, it might give them a little courage to stick up for themselves.

At the end of the day, there is power in numbers, so let's put that power toward kindness and helping each other. One of my favorite quotes is by Albert Einstein: "The world will not be destroyed by those who do evil, but by those who watch them without doing anything."

Dear Annie: This is in regard to your advice to "Sweet Tooth." My husband has diabetes. I had gestational diabetes when I was pregnant. I would not recommend honey or maple syrup or dark chocolate for people trying to cut down on sweets. If you eat quantities of anything sweet, and you are at risk, you can get diabetes, even if you are eating "healthy sweets." When I had gestational diabetes, I could have two pieces of fruit a day. That was the extent of my sweet allowance. "Sweet Tooth" should get herself to a nutritionist or a dietitian to get sound advice. Cutting down is hard; she will get a headache for a few days. And the cravings are real. But it's better than getting a chronic illness. — Also Loves Sweets

Dear Also Loves Sweets: Thank you for your letter. I hope it inspires others in similar situations to cut down on sweets.

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