Dear Annie: For the past three summers, my friend "Don" has spent a few days with me at our family beach house. The second year, he hinted about visiting again and was pleased when I invited him back. Soon, he began referring to "his room" at the beach house and making regular comments about "next year." I didn't know how to respond, so I ignored the comments, even though I thought he was being a little presumptuous.

This summer, I told Don that I had invited another friend and his wife to join me at the summerhouse. His response was that all of us could go. Annie, even though there's enough room, I want to have only this other couple. But all I could think to say to Don was "maybe."

I'm guessing that his feelings are hurt, but I'm a little annoyed. What should I do? — Awkward in Idaho

Dear Idaho: You do not owe Don an invitation or an apology, nor are you responsible for whatever assumptions he has made about being entitled to stay at your beach house. Two invitations make you a generous host, not his lifetime roommate. Continue to be friendly with Don, but say nothing more about the summer place unless you are ready to invite him again. This is not your fault.

Dear Annie: My husband, a pastor, was asked to perform the wedding of our son's friend and his bride. This involved two trips out of town. For the wedding, we had to drive more than 250 miles round-trip, board our dog for two days and pay for our own motel room, even though the bride said they would take care of it. The weekend cost us $230.

This is my gripe: My husband was not given a dime for his services. When I mentioned to him that in the future he might make it a condition of doing a wedding that his travel expenses be covered, he shrugged and said, "They probably couldn't afford it." But they were able to afford everything else, plus a honeymoon!

This is not the first time he's been stiffed, although bridal etiquette says it is customary to pay the clergyman $150 to $500 for his services. One couple offered to take us to dinner, but never did. Another couple gave him frozen fish.

Please tell bridal couples to be considerate of the clergyperson who has sacrificed to officiate at your wedding. You would not hesitate to pay the limo driver or the stylist who does your hair. Be sure to budget a decent amount for the cleric's services, especially if you know travel expenses are involved. Thank you for letting me get this off my chest. — Pastor's Wife in the Northwest

Dear Wife: The person who performs the service should be paid after the ceremony, preferably in an envelope along with a note of appreciation. Travel expenses also should be covered. Bridal couples can inquire about the fee at the church or synagogue office. But if your husband routinely goes unpaid, he could be a bit more assertive at the time he is asked to officiate by saying, "Please call the church office about the fee."

Dear Annie: I can identify with "Married to an Octopus." I have been married for 30 years and grabbed for most of them. Explaining that this was more of an assault and an embarrassment rather than a form of affection fell on deaf ears.

Here's what finally worked for me. I started grabbing him and saying, "Does this feel nice?" I wasn't rough, but the mere threat to my husband's manhood finally drove home the point that his octopus hands were unpleasant.

I also would like to suggest to "Married" that her lack of interest in sex may be less about her health and more about a negative association she has developed with her husband's touch. — Hands Off

"Annie's Mailbox" is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar. This column was originally published in 2017. To find out more about Classic Annie's Mailbox and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit Creators Syndicate at www.creators.com.