DR. WALLACE: My girlfriend and I were window-shopping at the mall when I saw the most handsome guy had ever seen. He and a friend were walking toward us, and I almost melted when our eyes met. We didn't say anything to each other, but we didn't have to. I felt it immediately. I wanted to chase after him and get his phone number, but I didn't. I now feel that I love this guy with all my heart I must find this guy.
How can I find this guy? He is going to be my future husband. —Excited to meet him, via email
EXCITED: You are not in love with this guy, rather merely infatuated with his appearance. If you live in a large metro area, your chances of finding him are extremely slim. If you reside in a smaller town, you chances would improve.
Enjoy this fun memory but continue your quest to find a compatible guy who circulates regularly in your social circles at school, work or wherever you usually are. If, by chance, you happen to see this particular guy again, be sure to strike up a conversation!
GRANDMOTHER IS OVERSTEPPING HER BOUNDARIES
DR. WALLACE: My grandmother has been living with us for the past year, ever since my grandfather passed away. When my grandfather was alive, seeing them was always enjoyable. But now that my grandmother lives with us, things have changed so much that I don't like being around here.
All she does is complain about everything about me — my clothes, hairstyle, music, friends and even my boyfriend. I tried to explain why I wear the clothes I do, why I wear my hair a certain way, why I like my music and friends and why I love my boyfriend. All this does is lead to small arguments, especially when she criticizes my boyfriend. I'm 5 feet 2 inches tall and he is 5 foot 3 inches tall. Grandma calls him "that little runt." If she wasn't my grandmother, I'd be tempted to wring her neck.
I discussed this problem with my mom, but she thinks I'm overreacting. Help! —Anonymous, Jackson, MS.
ANONYMOUS: Your grandmother is clearly overstepping her bounds. Rather than bonding with you and being your friend, she has decided to become a live-in critic. When she starts going negative, your best bet is to ignore her. Say nothing. Just get out at first sight. Eventually she'll get the message. Also, she should know better than to criticize the physical attributes of another human being.
Dr. Robert Wallace welcomes questions from readers. Although he is unable to reply to all of them individually, he will answer as many as possible in this column. E-mail him at rwallace@thegreatestgift.com. To find out more about Dr. Robert Wallace and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.
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