We heard from Victor in 2013. He wrote that he had a "fetish for and a desire to wear women's clothes" before he was even a teenager. He wore women's underwear, except when he visited the doctor. His wife was very understanding about his nightgowns, women's pajamas and Gloria Vanderbilt jeans.

When he was in public, he wore men's clothes. He said: "It would be nice to go out dressed quite femininely, but it's not going to happen. I would love to go swimming in a nice, conservative, one piece women's swimsuit or simply lay around in my back yard while dressed in such. Even wearing female gardening gloves is a turn-on.

"The general public might be coming more acceptable of gay and other types of relationships, but I feel that I would be ridiculed, ostracized and probably arrested if I went out in truly feminine apparel and wasn't able to pass. I guess I'm partially in a different kind of closet, as a closet queen, and prefer to stay there."

Well, Victor is back with an update.

He says: "I was content then with just sharing my cross-dressing with my supportive wife. She was ill and died the following year.

"Since then, I've come a considerable way out of the closet. I joined a crossdresser internet forum. I belong to two local cross dresser support groups. Each group has monthly meetings that one dresses up for. I know longer fear driving while being dressed en femme. One group meets once a month at a local restaurant where the general public is also present. I shop at some stores and ask if I can try things on.

"I've found a store that is cross-dresser friendly. One group just had a spring dinner/dance. I wanted to look glamorous for the occasion so I booked appointments at a salon for a wig styling, makeover and manicure. I nervously arrived en femme but everyone was so supportive and friendly that I needn't have worried. I had more fun there than I did at the dinner/dance.

"I came out to the social therapist that led the bereavement support group that I joined when my wife died. She was nonjudgmental and actually supportive. I still keep her informed about my activities. I came out to the inner circle of the people in my bereavement support group. However, I have not discussed it since, even though nothing negative was ever said. It's been a mixed bag with others that I have shared my activity with.

"I just started dating a lady and it looks like we could have a promising relationship. I haven't come out of the closet to her yet, but I know that I will eventually have to."

Good luck, Victor. I look forward to another update.

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