Dear Cheryl: Scott and I lived together for five of the eight years we were together. During all that time, he was still married to his wife, Danni. He recently went back to her. I'm still deeply in love with him, and I believe he's still in love with me.

When we were together, his daughters wouldn't have anything to do with him. Now that he's back home, they see him again. Also, Danni used to do horrible things and blame them on me. She'd listen to his voicemails, write things on his windows and leave embarrassing stuff in his driveway. She would also call and threaten me.

He finally caught her. She admitted to doing 95 percent of it. He believes I had something to do with the other 5 percent. One day, he'll find out I would never do such things.

Anyway, since he left me a month ago, we've talked and texted a lot. He's come to my place at least 11 times. He says he's only had sex with Danni one time since he's been living with her.

She follows him everywhere. She found us at a motel 35 miles away, and I really don't know how. She's very sneaky. Scott can't go anywhere without her wanting to go, too.

I know he still cares deeply for me and not Danni. I don't want anyone else. What can I do? — Who's the Third Wheel Here?

Dear Who's the Third Wheel Here?: Let's say you get your wish — Scott moves back in, and everything is like it was. What have you got? A man who's still married (to a crazy woman) and has no intentions of divorcing her no matter how sick, twisted and manipulative she is.

I want better for you.

Scott and Danni have some kind of crazy can't live-with-each-other, can't-live-without-each-other deal going. That's their problem.

You need to find out why you're fighting so hard to hold on to something that's really rotten. Do whatever it takes — books, therapy, self-help groups — to convince yourself that you deserve better.

Ending it with Scott completely is the first step to a healthy, happy life.

READERS: We recently wondered whether some relationships are meant to be. Here are your thoughts:

NINA: I believe all relationships are meant to be. Everything, whether good or bad, happens for a reason. Bad relationships teach us a lesson; good ones nurture us.

Everyone has a special someone out there. You somehow know the person, recognize the person's ways and realize that what you feel is unconditional love. The best part is the person feels the same way.

ARIANA: If it were true that some romantic relationships were meant to be, then it would mean that God or some other higher power ruled our lives, and that's nonsensical.

There is such a thing as destiny. However, there are evil people in the world who, out of jealousy or other wicked motives, plot to tear people asunder. Sometimes they succeed, destroying fate's original plan. Whether it's for your ultimate good or bad, only time will tell.

Also, you may be destined to meet a certain person, but that doesn't necessarily mean you are fated to marry that person and live happily ever after.

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