Dear Jenny: I have trouble meeting women. And when I do, I feel that I get used for a couple of dates without ever moving out of the "friend" category. I have tried online dating, but I feel my personality is my strong point, and it's tough to be funny online! Can you help me get more dates? — Billy, from Hagerstown, Md.

Jenny says: Well, my answer depends on how old you are. If you are still in your 30s, I would suggest going where single girls go: the clubs. We love to dance! Now, if you are over 40, or just not into the club scene, then I would suggest going to restaurant bars. Girls always have "girls' nights out" that begin with dinner.

But if you haven't been able to score lately, I would rethink your appearance. Girls notice clothing and hairstyles, and if yours are dated, you won't get the double take from a hottie you're hoping for. If you're not sure what styles are current, go to websites of men's clothing stores. You might have to move out of your comfort zone and lose the penny loafers you've had since college.

Getting upgraded out of the "friend" category also requires you to bring some heat. Heat is sex appeal. It sounds like you have a great personality, but we want macho guys in the bedroom. The best way to show heat is to exude confidence, so whatever you do, don't be too self-deprecating with girls when you meet them. We put you in the "friend" category if you do.

So, in summary: Go shopping, hit the gym and head to where single girls hang out. But most of all, don't forget to bring the heat, and you will have them begging to be more than a buddy.

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