Q: For the last five years I have attempted to fulfill my New Year's resolution, but it's been to no avail. I have asked for help from friends who have achieved their goals. The reality is that none of their advice helped me to change enough to stick to my resolutions.

Can you share some recommendations to help with my 2017 resolutions?

A: You already how to accomplish other goals, but you aren't applying these same principals to your resolutions. Focusing and changing your attitude will do the trick. Look forward down the pike and convince yourself of the value of your list.

It's possible that you are making too many resolutions. Prioritize what you really want to accomplish, and ensure that each item is doable.

Find a methodology that works for you. One friend chose to limit her list to six and accomplish one goal every other month, as they were concrete. Another elected to reward herself as she worked on her list. She bought herself new shoes or a bottle of fine wine, which served as the necessary motivation.

If you and a partner have similar goals, you might find that their support will bolster your efforts, as yours will do the same for them.

The bottom line is that you need to keep your goals at the forefront of your mind, instead of forgetting them when you're halfway through. Keep a list taped to your medicine-chest mirror, or somewhere where you will see it at the beginning of each day. If you remember your resolutions, you can adapt your daily routines for success. — Doug

HOLIDAY HELPING HAND

Q: I have a friend who is alone for the holiday season. His wife passed away several months ago, and they never had children. He has retreated from social activity, and I'm worried that he's depressed. I've been making the effort to maintain our friendship, and I would like to continue to do so, especially during this time.

How can I share the holiday spirit?

A: This season is a source of joy for many of us, as it provides us the opportunity to spend time with our loved ones and reaffirm traditions. As you have recognized, however, this time can be extremely lonely for those who don't have others to celebrate with.

Do your best to continue socializing with him, and try to invite him out of his home. Depending on your own plans, consider inviting him to join your celebrations. Although he may not be ready to enjoy the season fully, it's important to give him the option to join in.

Some of the best ways to include others are planning holiday activities, like caroling, crafts, baking or going shopping.

Above all, just try to be a good friend. You can likely judge his personality well and determine what lies within his comfort zone. Because loneliness is especially difficult during this time of year, remind him that he is not alone. — Emma, Doug's granddaughter

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at deardoug@msn.com. Emma, Doug's granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.