Q: We have been living in our family home for nearly 27 years and could never have made a better choice. Our neighbors have become family, and we make an ongoing effort to bond with and take care of one another.

Recently, one couple decided to move to be closer to their relatives after a death in the family. The new owners have moved in, and in my opinion, they seem reluctant to become involved with our neighborhood. They don't quite fit in.

Last week, the wife asked us over the fence whether the community chooses to get together during some of the holidays. It was a wake-up call for me, as I realized she was making attempts to join the neighbors. I just haven't been making any effort to welcome them.

What should I do?

A: After we lose a neighbor, we often hesitate because we miss old friends. It also requires effort to get to get to know someone new, and you've forgotten how to do so. Because you're satisfied with your existing community relationships, you haven't seen any need to step beyond your comfort zone.

However, it is worth your effort to make them welcome and part of your family. Remind yourself that you were once in their shoes.

Remember what your neighbors did for you initially to make you feel welcome. Consider extending an invitation to any communal events. Bringing over food is usually a great opening gambit and conversation starter.

We are approaching that time of the year when we celebrate important holidays and traditions. Consider sharing traditions and inviting them to neighborhood coffee gatherings and other regular get-togethers.

To lower their stress, get to know them a little one-on-one, and then introduce them to other neighbors. Social events can be intimidating when you feel like the odd man out.

To give them a lay of the land, share the names of your doctors, favorite restaurants, exercise locations and other useful insider information.

Making a point to welcome them will make their transition easier. They'll appreciate it, and they could even become lifelong friends. — Doug

SLUMBER TROUBLES

Q: During the last month, I've been having an awful time sleeping, and I am not quite sure why. I can't seem to stay asleep and am cranky and distracted for the rest of the day. I've never really had problems, but that seems to be changing with age.

Do you have any solutions?

A: During the year, there are often little changes that we don't notice but our bodies certainly do. Try to figure out the source. What's changed for you?

Have you changed any routine (or possibly medication) recently? How is your diet and exercise regime (including alcohol)?

Considering the season and heat, you may also be having an allergy problem that is impacting your sleep. Experiment with different configurations of windows and air conditioning. This may just solve your problem.

If you can't figure out the issue, consider asking a doctor. — Emma, Doug's granddaughter

Doug Mayberry makes the most of life in a Southern California retirement community. Contact him at deardoug@msn.com. Emma, Doug's granddaughter, helps write this column. To find out more about Doug Mayberry and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com