Dear Annie: Our son "Kyle" got a divorce after eight years of marriage. (He later told us it was because his ex-wife had an abortion.) Since then, he has had a few girlfriends, but none of them wanted or could have a baby. He desperately wants to have a child, but he doesn't have $50,000 for a surrogate. My question is, what do women want at childbearing age?

Kyle is 38, of average height (5 feet, 10 inches) and a runner, so he's in great shape. He has a good job, a master's degree and a condo in a beautiful city. He's tried dating sites with no luck. What else can he do? — Rocky Mountains

Dear Rocky Mountains: Kyle sounds like a catch who just hasn't found his perfect match yet. While he may have tried dating sites in the past, not all of them are created equal. A newer app, heybaby, is designed specifically for those who want or already have children. eHarmony, an already popular dating site, is known for being a good fit for singles seeking serious relationships and marriage.

Aside from the digital dating scene, Kyle might also consider getting involved in local goings-on, like speed-dating events or singles mixers, targeted to those intentionally looking for the same things he is. Even his general hobbies, like running or fitness classes, or perhaps events in his condo building, might be good ways to meet women with shared interests and things in common.

Does Kyle have any close couple friends with single friends of their own? Sometimes, the greatest matches are made by the people who know us best. I have no doubt that with more time and a continued openness to love and possibility, Kyle will find exactly what he's looking for — and make some lady incredibly lucky.

Dear Annie: The letter from "Super Spender," who felt she was contributing more to the household spending than her husband, reminded me of how my late husband and I handled our finances. I want to explain what we did in hopes that it will help solve her problem.

We kept our own bank accounts, but we also had a joint account that we each contributed to equally. Our mortgage, car payment(s) and utilities were split in half. Then we determined how much we spent on groceries and entertainment and agreed on a monthly amount for those and each contributed half to the joint account. If we spent all of that in a month (sometimes we did; sometimes we didn't), then it was up to us individually if we wanted to pay out of our own accounts for an extra outing or activity. The money in our own accounts was ours to spend as we saw fit.

If we had a large expense — refinancing our mortgage, buying a new car or large appliance, doing home maintenance — we discussed it together, and our joint account contribution was adjusted accordingly.

We were together for 27 years, and we seldom had issues about finances that we saw other couples deal with. Hope this helps. — Happy Budgeter

Dear Happy Budgeter: Thank you for this perspective. You were one of many readers who wrote in suggesting the couple start a joint account to cover shared expenses, and this indeed seems like a great solution.

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