Dear Annie: My husband "Jack" has become so angry with me lately, and I don't understand why. We have been married for 10 years, have two beautiful girls, ages 6 and 4, and he's a great dad. However, with me, he is short-tempered and does not want to spend any "alone" time with me when I suggest we have date nights.

Jack refuses to discuss what's wrong when I ask him why the sudden change in his temperament towards me. I am a stay-at-home mom and consider myself a good wife and mother, and don't deserve to be made to feel badly about myself with his outbursts of anger, from things like not making dinner on time, to my "sloppy" appearance, to not stocking his favorite beer and snacks. I can't take it anymore. — Fed Up to Here

Dear Fed Up: Jack has no right to be verbally abusive toward you. You two should get into couples therapy, pronto. He sounds like he may be struggling with depression or anger — or worse — and he needs to find healthy ways to cope. If he refuses to participate in therapy, he can learn to stock his own beer while you consider the next best move for you and your girls — with or without him in the picture.

Dear Annie: My best friend is dating a nice guy, "George" (not his real name), and they seem madly in love and want to get married after graduation. We are all college students and George is an international student from South America.

One night we went out with some friends from class at a bar/restaurant. When my best friend and I got up to go to the ladies room, some friends came over to the table, and I overheard George telling them about a date he was on the night before with another girl he met online!

I am so angry at his betrayal. Do I tell my best friend? Or is it none of my business? — Keeping Secrets

Dear Keeping: You should absolutely tell your best friend what you overheard her boyfriend saying. The fact they've already discussed getting married (and soon) and that he's dating other women clearly shows they are on two very different pages. Save her the agony and headache now, before she wastes any more of her time with him, thinking he's a good guy when he's not.

Dear Annie: I was doing some spring cleaning and found some receipts in the pockets of one of my husband's sports coats for some large purchases for his sports memorabilia collection, to the tune of $5,000 to $20,000 each. I was in shock. I don't have a problem with supporting him and his hobbies, but he should have discussed it with me first, correct? What should I do? — Dumbfounded

Dear Dumbfounded: You sound very generous and supportive. Start by having an open, honest conversation with your husband and explain how strongly you feel about not keeping secrets. Maybe the two of you can figure out why he felt the need to hide his receipts to begin with. Maybe he's never consulted you before about large purchases and didn't think it was important to do so. It could be that he has an addiction and needs help for his compulsion. Getting it out in the open now will make things much smoother when he finds the next item to add to his collection.

"How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane's second anthology — featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation — is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.

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